Attractive Attraction

They are sort of like the bones in your body. You can’t see them and yet they give you your shape and they determine how you move. If they change, everything changes. You can imagine them like the wood frame of a house.
Concealed behind the walls, it gives the dwelling its form and character. To change the house, to build an extension or to dormer the roof, the frame must be altered.

I’m talking about your beliefs. Not the ones you can easily
name, like believing in a religion or in a political cause. It’s the invisible ones. The ones
that give your personality its shape. The ones that determine where you stand and how
you move. Those are the unseen structures that exert more influence in your life than
just about anything else.

In the same way that the shape of the bones of your arm let your elbow bend one way
and not the other, the invisible assumptions that you hold let your consciousness move
in one way and not another. Ultimately, it means your life unfolds in that way. Like an
elbow, it can’t go the other way.

Poof

When they are old, habitual and unconscious, these beliefs are not so different from the
two-by-fours in your walls. Your frame-like thought-forms build your reality its theatre.

They give your reality the semblance of being hard and fixed. The architecture doesn’t
budge. Reality seems solid.

But unlike their earthy, wooden cousins the two-by-fours, these structural beliefs can
change, dissolve and completely transform in the blink of an eye. Then, poof, the whole
house changes form. In the case of the body, it suddenly becomes flexible where it had
been stiff and cramped. The structure of the mind, having changed shape, changes the
shape of your life.

You can’t see them
I was struggling with a computer problem. I spent four hours creating and deleting and
creating and deleting folders and not only did I not fix the problem, I created a much
bigger one.

I decided to get myself out of the hole I was digging and to spend some time tending to
my vibration. I looked at the bigger picture. I invited my native enthusiasm about the
project. I re-ignited the calling of my heart that led me to this journey in the first place.
With my passion reawakened, I was able to realize that this was just a little technical
snag. No big deal. I got myself very, very happy about my project and about
everything that was going magnificently well. I stoked my faith that it would all work
out. Even though nothing had changed on my screen, I was feeling pretty good.

The next day, I received an email from tech support suggesting that I double-check my
folders. The technician explained that the program would not work if all the folders
were in another folder.

The funny thing was that I was working under the assumption that they had to be in
that other folder in order to work.

This was an invisible assumption. It never even occurred to me to ask about this
because I didn’t think it was in question.

It was causing my whole project to fail. And it all boiled down to an invisible
assumption.

This was just a little technical snafu. What about the bigger issues in life? What about
anxiety and depression? What about our addictions and our struggles?
Seeing Through
All these difficult states of consciousness are built on beliefs. The kind you don’t even
know you have. Within the emotional walls of anxiety you’ll find the two-by-fours of a
belief in disempowerment. They are hidden within the structure of depression. They
give rage its shape.
How do you renovate your beliefs? How do you change the shape and functionality of
your life? It requires looking through the situation rather than at it. For as long as you
may look at your elbow, you don’t see the articulation of the bones. All you know is
which way it bends.

In order to look through the situation you must stop thinking the situation is fixed and
real and final. You look through it when you pay attention to how you feel. Abraham*
tells us that our emotions are our guidance system. They are also your x-ray machine.
They tell you what is going on under the skin of the situation. They tell you the shape
of the underlying bones. They reveal the structure behind the walls.

Under Construction

Here’s a quick little exercise you can do to start moving walls and adding extensions to
your reality.

1. First find something you love about your reality just the way it is. Find a space of
appreciation from which to launch your project.

2. As you think about the unwanted situation in your life, notice how it feels to you.

3. Understand this feeling as a structure.

4. Imagine yourself changing the structure. Make it a space that feels wonderful and
just right for you. Shift the frame. Move the walls. Add doors and windows if you like.

Do anything that feels a little bit better to you. Do it quickly and easily. Don’t think
about it too much. You can’t do this wrong.

When you revisit this previously difficult area of your life, you may feel more open to
new possibilities than you have ever been. You may be surprised at your frequent
discovery of solutions that were “staring you in the face” the whole time. And your
joints may suddenly become more limber, too.

All structures in your life benefit from even a few moments of tending to the structure
of your invisible assumptions. And the best part of it is that you don’t have to know
what these assumptions are. All you have to know is how you want to feel in your new
dwelling.

© Rebbie Straubing

You can receive Dr. Rebbie Straubing’s Free e-Course,
“7 Secrets for Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire,” at
http://www.yofa.net

Rebbie is a workshop leader, Abraham Coach, and writer.

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Power Affirmations can help you attract the love of your life into your life in several ways. For example:

Helping you become a more happy, healthy and positive person. The more positive you are about life, about others, and about yourself, the more attractive you will be to that right person.

Building self-esteem and self-confidence. To find your love, you have to get out. You have to circulate in places where you are likely to find people a lot like you.

Creating physical power and health. None of us are perfect or look perfect. But we can make the most out of what has been given to us. Power Affirmations help to give you a “make-over” from the inside out. Physical beauty and attractiveness begins with a state of mind. As you begin to practice good eating habits, good health habits, good exercise habits, and good grooming habits, your level of attractiveness will naturally improve.

Improve Your Relationship Skills. Power Affirmations help to improve your relationship skills with everyone, and that naturally makes you more attractive to the love of your life.

Increase Your Personal Wealth. What does this do with finding romance? More than you may think. A significant portion of the problems between a husband and wife are due to financial stress. When you learn how to work together to create and manage wealth, this level of stress is lowered and it creates a deeper bond between you.

If you are single man, it’s no secret that a woman wants to know you are able to provide for the family. If you are single woman, the man wants to know you appreciate his efforts and that you are willing to contribute your share. It’s more difficult than ever for a household to survive (much less thrive) on a single income. So the better both people are in this area, the better the relationship will be.

Increase the Power of Romance. Okay, this is where it really gets fun. Romance is a state of mind. It is looking at life and the love of your life with rose colored glasses. By that I don’t mean denying reality, but in choosing to focus on the positive. It means noticing little things about your partner and creating an environment where feelings of romance can thrive.

The free e-book I have written on Power Affirmations has an entire set of affirmations strictly on The Power of Romance and how to create it.

There’s nothing magic about affirmations. They are simply tools (but powerful tools) that help you keep your mind focused on the beliefs and the goals you want. When you keep your mind consistently focused on a specific goal, such as attracting the love of your life, you will take more consistent actions that will make that a reality. You will take action to make yourself a better “catch.” You will take action to be more confident when meeting people you are attracted to. You will circulate more. Your positive, optimistic attitude will make you more attractive to people of a similar nature. You will take a more “romantic” view towards life, and that will naturally attract more romance towards you.

If you improve your thoughts, you will improve your life. Power Affirmations can help.

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One factor that makes a big difference in how much control you have over your life is your time horizon. In the span of a day or a week, you have a fair amount of control over your life, but it’s certainly not 100%. In any given week, just about anything can happen, and your plans can be thrown completely off by factors outside your control. Even over the course of a year, your goals can be totally sidetracked. You can be hit with an unexpected health problem or suffer a major financial setback. I’ve certainly had at least one year where everything seemed to go askew and where getting back on track took months.

But in the long run, when you hit time horizons of 5, 10, or 20 years, your degree of control is closer to 100%. The short-term randomness tends to cancel out.

If you want to start a new business this week, your ability to accomplish that goal may not be anywhere near 100%. But if you want to start a new business within the next 5 years, no matter what your starting condition, you’re virtually 100% capable of making it happen if you choose to do so. There are very few setbacks that will nuke your ability to get moving in the direction of your goals for more than a year.

People often overestimate what they can reasonably achieve in a year. But they vastly underestimate what they can achieve in 5 years. In a five-year period you can go from sitting in the stands as a spectator to becoming an Olympic gold medalist in the decathlon. It’s been done. Think about what you can achieve between now and 2010 if you commit to it. You can lose any amount of weight and develop any kind of physique you want. You can start your own business and make it profitable. You can meet the mate of your dreams and start a family. You can relocate to anywhere in the world. You can learn to speak a new language fluently. You can write a book. You can become skilled at any musical instrument. You can learn to act or dance or speak or write.

If you’ve been complaining about not being able to get started on one of your major goals for a week or a month, you may be doing so for good reason. Perhaps you are indeed experiencing setbacks that have prevented you from getting started. But if you’ve been making excuses for more than a year, the responsbility for the delay is almost certainly yours alone.

You have an enormous degree of control and power when you think with a time horizon of 5 years. Don’t let that potential go to waste. Set a course now and get moving.

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