Attractive Attraction

June 5, 2008

Manifest Your Desires

June 05th 2008 Posted to humanshift-attraction

Imagine being able to actually shape your life the way you want it to be so that you can achieve anything you set out to achieve. Well, you know what? It’s really possible. And thousands, in fact, millions have been doing it and are really successful in their lives so there’s no reason why you cannot be one of them.

The way I’ve lived me life for a long time now is based on the Law of Attraction. Of course, when I was a kid, I hadn’t come across this concept before although I knew I was living it when I heard about it. The Law of Attraction simply states, “You get what you think about.”

Think back to a time when you were doing something, maybe focusing on the lack of money you have, how did you feel then? What kept happening? Did you keep thinking of the lack of money and finding that more wealth was coming your way? Or did you have to change your thoughts about money, making them positive vibrations for the universe to respond to you so that you can experience the abundance of money flowing to you?

Here’s how it works, and here’s the process that has given me so much success in my life in terms of opportunities, love, finance, relationships, etc. Whatever thought you are focussing upon send out a vibration into the universe and the universe responds to it by giving you more of that particular vibration. There are only two types of vibrations - positive and negative, and these are determined by what you are focussing upon.

I can hear you saying, “Kavit, is it really that simple? You mean if I just focus on my desire, it’ll just appear?” Yes that’s right, but one thing that is crucial in order to manifest your desire is to have no resistance in the alignment of your vibration with your desire. What that means is that there should be no inner critic, or what we term as Self 1 doubting your desire otherwise that also sends out some negative vibrations which then makes the Universe respond with nothing - keeping you stationary.

So you can see that in fact that’s the real simple strategy for you to manifest your desire. But before you can manifest it, you really have to get clear on what you want to achieve, and we’ll look at how to get clear about what you want to achieve in the next issue!

Kavit Haria is The Musicians’ Coach. Kavit is the director of
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Tags: law of attraction, life abundance, motivation, prosperity, self satisfaction, success, success tip

June 3, 2008

Thought Ripples

June 03rd 2008 Posted to humanshift-attraction

Within hours after posting A Dose of Caffeine for Your Consciousness, I went downstairs and saw that my wife was watching a movie. She was watching Mystery Men, which is about a group of inept but well-intentioned superheroes. This was a movie we’d seen when it first came out in 1999 but not since then it just happened to be showing on cable (USA channel). As I walked into the room, the scene that just happened to be on the screen was the one where Invisible Boy finally gets to show off his power the power to become invisible, but only when no one is looking directly at him. He uses it to bypass a deadly machine. That’s a fascinating interpretation of one of the concepts I just wrote about.

The movie that came on right after that one on the same channel was The Hulk, which is about a powerful superhero who comes to possess great powers which he’s unable to control. Hmmm A warning message?

Then later in the day I stumbled upon this article about an 8-year old Korean physics prodigy who’s entering university and says he wants to invent anti-gravity cars that can fly. I just happened to notice it on the del.icio.us popular list today. Another example of something I was just writing about this morning.

Then I happened to be watching The Matrix Reloaded during lunch (must be movie day here), and a scene came on where Neo and another character in Zion were discussing how little they slept just a few hours a day. Alrighty then

I interpret these kinds of things as bounceback reflections of my thoughts rippling through external reality. At first I would dismiss such events as my brain’s reticular activating system (RAS) at work, which can predispose us to notice what we’ve been thinking about. For example, you buy a new car and then see that same make and model everywhere on the road. But I became curious to see if I could push beyond the RAS explanation and start manifesting coincidences that would be really hard to explain merely as the result of subconscious programming. Letting go of that limiting belief seemed to have a big effect, and now I notice strange synchronicities happening almost every day, many of which require a serious stretch for me to explain purely as a result of subconscious action or random coincidence.

Then I started trying to consciously create such synchronous experiences by intending for them to manifest with greater abundance and intensity. Now I experience this kind of thing nearly every day, and sometimes there’s an avalanche of them within a compressed period of time (like 30-60 minutes). The coincidences described above are among the mildest.

Since I started this blog last year, these effects have been magnified tremendously. I think that may be due to the fact that via my writing, I’m able to influence the thinking of thousands of others. I suspect that when thousands of people think a certain thought within a short period of time (like 24 hours or so), it creates stronger ripples through reality than when just one person thinks the thought. So that may explain why when I write about something, I see a greater surge in synchronicities, even if I discount those that seem to be a direct result of people reading the blog and sending me feedback.

If this is indeed how reality works, then it means I need to be very cognizant of the thoughts I’m putting out into the world. I’m OK with accepting that responsibility because I’ve been consciously committing myself to serve the highest good of all and to develop a deeper understanding of what that means. The ability to influence the thoughts of thousands of people each day isn’t something I take lightly. I feel grateful for the privilege, and I’m dedicated to doing the best I can. Such a privilege can easily be abused though if one succumbs to fear-based thinking, as Adolf Hitler once did with his communication skills.

I think everyone has this innnate ability to use their thoughts to create ripples in external reality, but they don’t normally notice it because they mostly use their thoughts to recreate their past in the future. Most people think the same thoughts they did yesterday, so their experience of reality appears more rigid and less flexible. I will tell you that it’s been a major challenge for me to learn how to think consciously and proactively instead of merely reacting to external reality, to choose my thoughts instead of having them dictated by my environment. It took years to be able to do that with any consistency. Reactionary thinking is a hard habit to break.

This is Greatest American Hero territory, where we seem to possess some sort of curious power but lack the instruction manual. I’m deeply fascinated by the opportunity to explore such territory. I hope you find it equally fascinating as you continue to grow more conscious and aware.

Steve Pavlina
Personal Development for Smart People
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Steve is intensely growth-oriented. He trained in martial arts, ran the L.A. Marathon, and graduated from college in three semesters with two degrees. He can juggle, count cards at blackjack, and make damn good guacamole. Steve is also a polyphasic sleeper, sleeping just 2-3 hours per day and only 20 minutes at a time. So chances are good that he’s awake right now.

Tags: beliefs, law of attraction, life abundance, motivation, prosperity, self awareness tip, self satisfaction

May 9, 2008

Living Your Values, Part II

May 09th 2008 Posted to humanshift-attraction

Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

In Part I of this two-part series, you learned a step-by-step process for eliciting and prioritizing your personal values. Now in Part II, we’ll explore how to live with integrity to your values, using them to make decisions and take action.

Using Your Values to Make Decisions

Once you know and understand your personal values, you can consult them whenever you need to make a key decision. Should you accept the new job you’ve been offered? Should you pursue a new relationship now? How much time should you spend with your family? These can be tough decisions without a clear right or wrong answer. You may choose to answer them differently at different points in your life.

Your values list provides a shortcut for making these decisions intelligently. When you’re confronted with such a decision, you pull out your list and check the prioritization of values. Then ask yourself, “What would a person with these values choose to do in this situation?” It’s usually the prioritization of your values that will answer the question.

For example, if you’re offered a job promotion that will shift your work weeks from 40 hours to 60 hours but double your salary, should you take it? If values like success and achievement are at the top of your list, you’ll probably say yes. If freedom and family are at the top, you’ll likely decline the promotion. By clarifying your values, you’ve already done the hard thinking required to discover what’s most important to you. So now when you’re confronted with such decisions, you’re able to reduce them to a values comparison, and the final decision falls into place. If the promotion equates to increased success but reduced peace in your mind, then you can compare those values to learn whether it’s a good idea or not. Your goal is to increase your fulfillment of your highest values without sacrificing them to lower values.

Remember that this is only one of many paradigms for making decisions. As such it has limitations, but you should find that it brings clarity to your decision-making.

Achieving Alignment

Whenever your values shift, you may find it necessary to realign the various parts of your life to restore them to a state of harmony with your values. If success is your #1 personal value, then it will be important for you to experience it in abundance. Success for you may equate to a successful career, a high income, a fulfilling relationship, and a healthy body. Ask yourself what parts of your life are misaligned with your top values, and consider how to bring them into full alignment.

When you notice a misalignment between your reality and your values, you have two basic options to restore alignment.

First, you can adapt the situation to restore alignment. So if health is your top value, and you realize you’ve been keeping too much junk food in your house, you can modify your kitchen to fit your new health value, phasing out the junk and restocking with healthier choices.

Secondly, you can remove yourself from the situation and start fresh to create alignment from scratch. If you find yourself in a relationship where you definitely want to have children and your boyfriend or girlfriend definitely doesn’t want children, you can choose to break up and seek out a more compatible relationship.

So whenever you encounter a misalignment, you can either adapt the circumstances to restore alignment, or you can remove yourself from the situation and start fresh.

I don’t recommend the third alternative of living with the misalignment if you cannot adapt to it. This would mean living without integrity to your values. An example would be choosing to remain in an abusive relationship out of misplaced loyalty. Living with misalignment for too long often results in serious negative consequences.

Whenever your values change, it’s important to review the various areas of your life to make sure they’re properly aligned with the kind of person you believe you are. If you’re in a relationship, is it compatible with your values? If you work for a company, are its perceived values compatible with yours? If there’s a misalignment, then it’s time to make changes either by adapting or by getting out.

Adapting Your Values

At some point you’ll encounter a situation that forces you to reassess your values. Maybe a close friend dies, a major illness hits you, or you begin a new relationship, and consequently, you gain a new perspective on what’s truly most important to you. This is to be expected as you grow older and have new experiences.

Suddenly your values list doesn’t seem to be an accurate representation of the real you. You’ve changed too much. So it’s time to reassess your values and create a new values list, following the process in Living Your Values, Part I.

Depending on how fast-paced your life is and how much change you experience, you may need to update your values every few months, or they may go relatively unchanged for years.

The Ultimate Alignment

The ultimate goal of living your values is to eventually bring them into alignment with universal principles. As you experience living with different sets of values, you’ll learn what’s truly important to you. Your values may shift a great deal at first as you set new goals and have new experiences, but eventually they will start to converge.

Your values are your current estimations of truth. They represent your answer to the question of how to live. Some sets of values will fail to produce the results you want. They may leave you feeling restless and unfulfilled. Other sets of values bring you closer to a feeling of congruence. When you act with integrity to values that are themselves aligned with universal principles, you get the best possible results.

This process of alignment is similar to how scientists try to discover a mathematical formula to explain natural phenomena. Isaac Newton’s famous F = ma law was an approximation of reality. But it was inaccurate at relativistic speeds, and eventually Albert Einstein provided a more accurate formula. Just as the physical universe is the proving ground for hypothetical physical laws, the universe will also give you feedback to let you know how closely your values align with reality.

The process of discovery in this case is still experiential, but it can’t be measured as scientifically as gravity. The scientific method requires that an experiment be repeatable under the same conditions, but human problems never duplicate the exact same conditions. Once you make a one-time decision in your career or your relationships, you never face that exact same decision with identical conditions again. Since we cannot apply the scientific method to such situations, the best we can do is to try to classify events according to patterns we’ve previously experienced.

What this means is that the process of values clarification is inherently messy and inexact. It’s also a uniquely individual experience. You cannot objectively prove that one set of values is any better or worse than another, but you can begin to see patterns over time, and these patterns can help point you in the direction of universal principles.

The existence of universal principles cannot be proven. However, as you live with different sets of values long enough and gain enough experience, you will start to see that there are certain values which massively outperform others in certain areas, hinting at the possibility that there may exist a true principle that works universally for everyone.

An example of a potential universal principle is that of fairness. If you align yourself with the value of fairness and live with integrity to it, you will likely find that it works extremely well. Fairness means that you treat everyone you encounter as a person of equal value to yourself - no more, no less. The principle of fairness is captured in the words, “all men are created equal,” found in the U.S. Declaration of Independence. Fairness is the foundational value upon which democracy is built. The founding fathers of the United States upheld this value as a “self-evident” truth, meaning that they believed fairness/equality to be a universal principle.

Imagine having to design your own system for running a company or a country, not knowing in advance what role you’d play after it was launched. It seems reasonable that you would design that system with fairness for all participants as a high priority.

When your values are misaligned with the value of fairness, you will find that your results suffer. If you are unfair in your relationships or your business dealings, others will recognize and adapt to your unfairness, making it harder for you to even achieve a reasonable outcome when you want it. They may even warn others in advance of your behavior to make it harder for you to get anything done through others. So your effectiveness grows weaker the longer the misalignment exists. But when you build a reputation for fairness in all of your dealings, you will maintain strong levels of trust with others, and that will make it far easier to elicit cooperation.

I believe the ultimate goal of living and refining your values is to identify and achieve congruence with universal principles. Then your model of reality finally matches reality itself, and in the long run your actions will consistently produce the best possible results. This isn’t just an individual journey either - it’s one that all of humanity is experiencing with each passing century. Social creations like democracy, slavery, or capital punishment can be seen as part of an ongoing process of values clarification.